Re-Writing Reality is Easier Than You Think

One of the exercises I go through with people during my seminars is to think back five years or ten years. Let’s pick a nice round number, like 2005. That’s seven, almost eight years ago. Where did you live? Was it the same house? Did you drive a different car? Did you go to work […]

Happy Leap Year: Looking Forward and Backward

People are interesting creatures. We create an artificial thing called time, divide it into little increments, and then assign meaning to those increments. Today is Leap Year Day. We won’t get to experience February 29th for another four years. In my book, Relax Focus Succeed, I discuss the topic of looking forward and backward. There, […]

Put More Balance in Your Balance!

I’m a big advocate of balance. In work and play and everything else. Ironically enough, you have to WORK at balance: It simply won’t happen by itself. Part of balance means saying no. Make that “NO!” Business owners tend to be doers and joiners. When someone drops a request on our laps, we tend to […]

Do You Know How To Ask for What You Want?

Recently I found myself in two very different settings that resulted in similar, uncomfortable results. Both were business networking and “master mind” settings of truly amazing people. In each setting the following scenario played out: – People were given the opportunity to ask a room full of experts to help them with their businesses. Name […]

Do You Know How To Ask for What You Want?

Not too long ago I found myself in two very different settings that resulted in similar, uncomfortable results. In each setting the following scenario played out: – People were given the opportunity to ask a room full of experts to help them with their businesses. Name any problem with your challenge and we’ll all brainstorm […]

Make Your Year-End Goal Setting Meaningful

Tis the season for people to start putting together their “to do” lists for next year.

Goals are great. Goals are necessary. But real, meaningful goals have to be coupled with action plans. Think about it this way: When I ask an audience of any size whether they want to be millionaires, virtually everyone raises their hand. Then when I ask how many have a plan to get to that status, I might get one or two hands.

Do You Worry Enough? Just as There’s Good Stress, So There’s Good Worry

There’s a lot of “universal” advice out there.  The always-present everyone says don’t smoke, exercise more, eat your fruits and vegetables. One piece of universal advice is to stop worrying, or at least reduce the level of worry in your life.  After all, we have plenty to worry about—Money, our children, our parents, our spouse’s […]

Open Your Wallet

I have discovered two situations in which I’m willing to open my wallet and say “Here.  Take whatever you want.” The fist situation is Disneyland.  Mickey Mouse can have all the money he wants.  When we’re at Disneyland, I’m happy and relaxed.   My daughter is totally wired, bouncing off the walls, and hyperventilating with fun.  […]

The Unexamined Life is Not Worth Living

I’m sure you’ve read this quote before: “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates said at his trial for heresy. He was on trial for encouraging his students to challenge  accepted beliefs of the time and think for themselves. The sentence was death or  Socrates had the option of suggesting an alternative punishment. He […]

Nothing Grows in a Straight Line – Even People

No one is surprised when they see that plants don’t grow straight. Plant a squash or a vine and see what it does. If you want it to grow straight, you’ll need to use tent stakes to staple it’s tentacles to the earth. If fact, it’s almost laughable when you see what people do with […]