Re-Writing Reality is Easier Than You Think

One of the exercises I go through with people during my seminars is to think back five years or ten years. Let’s pick a nice round number, like 2005. That’s seven, almost eight years ago. Where did you live? Was it the same house? Did you drive a different car? Did you go to work […]

Depression Doesn’t Look Like What You Think

After years of ignoring it, I finally face the fact that I was (am) depressed. Not just a little bump in the road, but truly, honestly depressed. I had been in denial for over three years. Depression doesn’t look like what most people think. Depressed people don’t always lie in a fetal position doing nothing […]

Too Much Work – Or Too Little – Is Bad

I hope it’s not a big surprise that too much work is bad for you. I know I harp on it all the time, but there’s plenty of research to back it up. I recently came across a great article by Nancy Shute on the effect of long hours on depression. See http://www.plosone.org/article/info%3Adoi%2F10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0030719.  The key […]

Happy Leap Year: Looking Forward and Backward

People are interesting creatures. We create an artificial thing called time, divide it into little increments, and then assign meaning to those increments. Today is Leap Year Day. We won’t get to experience February 29th for another four years. In my book, Relax Focus Succeed, I discuss the topic of looking forward and backward. There, […]

Facebook and Reality Don’t Always Play Well Together

Not too long ago I was speaking to a group about automating social media. I mentioned that I post to Twitter with socialoomph.com, and that Twitter feeds Facebook and LinkedIn. I also schedule newsletters in advance, as well as some blog posts. My humorous line was that, if I died, no one would know it […]

Do You Know How To Ask for What You Want?

Recently I found myself in two very different settings that resulted in similar, uncomfortable results. Both were business networking and “master mind” settings of truly amazing people. In each setting the following scenario played out: – People were given the opportunity to ask a room full of experts to help them with their businesses. Name […]

Honne Tatemae

The Japanese have two words – Honne and Tatemae – that describe recognized social behaviors. According to our friends at Wikipedia: “Honne refers to a person’s true feelings and desires. These may be contrary to what is expected by society or what is required according to one’s position and circumstances, and they are often kept […]

Worry Brings Benefits

Do You Worry Enough? Part 3 This is the third and final installment of the series that started here with “Do You Worry Enough? Worry brings benefits.  That sounds odd to us.  Let me rephrase it:  Spending time thinking about problems brings good things into our lives. There are two types of “focusing” on problems.  […]

How to Worry the Right Way

Do You Worry Enough? Part 2 Last time we discussed “Do You Worry Enough?” We started by framing a workable definition of the word worry. Now we know what worry is.  How much worrying is the right amount?  That’s difficult to quantify.  I believe we need to think about the problems in our lives enough […]

Do You Worry Enough?

Just as There’s Good Stress, So There’s Good Worry There’s a lot of “universal” advice out there. The always-present everyone says don’t smoke, exercise more, eat your fruits and vegetables. One piece of universal advice is to stop worrying, or at least reduce the level of worry in your life. After all, we have plenty […]