Honne Tatemae
The Japanese have two words – Honne and Tatemae – that describe recognized social behaviors. According to our friends at Wikipedia: “Honne refers to a person’s true feelings and desires. These may be contrary to what is expected by society or what is required according to one’s position and circumstances, and they are often kept […]
Worry Brings Benefits
Do You Worry Enough? Part 3 This is the third and final installment of the series that started here with “Do You Worry Enough? Worry brings benefits. That sounds odd to us. Let me rephrase it: Spending time thinking about problems brings good things into our lives. There are two types of “focusing” on problems. […]
How to Worry the Right Way
Do You Worry Enough? Part 2 Last time we discussed “Do You Worry Enough?” We started by framing a workable definition of the word worry. Now we know what worry is. How much worrying is the right amount? That’s difficult to quantify. I believe we need to think about the problems in our lives enough […]
Do You Worry Enough?
Just as There’s Good Stress, So There’s Good Worry There’s a lot of “universal” advice out there. The always-present everyone says don’t smoke, exercise more, eat your fruits and vegetables. One piece of universal advice is to stop worrying, or at least reduce the level of worry in your life. After all, we have plenty […]
Multiple Life Lines
One of the things you have to remember about work is that it is NOT your life. It can be an important part of your life. It can be extremely fulfilling. When there’s stress at home, going to work can be a relief. And when there’s stress at work, going home can be a relief. […]
Relying on Other People
My support system has made me realize how blessed I am.
I Moved My Cane Today
Prop the mental cane against the corner and leave the pain where it belongs – in the past.
Relax . . . I Am Already!
Focus will allow you to accomplish amazing things in a short amount of time. But you also need the relaxation component to make that work.
Do You Worry Enough? Just as There’s Good Stress, So There’s Good Worry
There’s a lot of “universal” advice out there. The always-present everyone says don’t smoke, exercise more, eat your fruits and vegetables. One piece of universal advice is to stop worrying, or at least reduce the level of worry in your life. After all, we have plenty to worry about—Money, our children, our parents, our spouse’s […]
Introduction to Retreats
In the Monty Python movie The Holy Grail, King Arthur’s men do not use the terms “charge” and “retreat.” Instead they use “charge” and “Run away! Run away!” So, when I tell my friends I’m going on my annual retreat, they always say “Run away! Run away!” Part of me wants to say that I’m […]
