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Inertia – Good and Bad

Newtons Cradle

We all know what intertia is. Whether or not your mind immediately brings up an image of Sir Isaac Newton, you have certainly heard of Newton’s first law of motion: “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless […]

You Can Rebuild Your Life – with World Enough and Time

Write Speak Travel

This month represents a big anniversary for me. Ten years ago – January 2011 – my life was at an emotional and monetary low. My divorce had become “final” in 2010. My daughter, the absolute center of my life, moved off to college. The country was in recession, and my finances were in complete disarray. […]

The Walk-On Method

Walk Onmethod

My friend Jim Roddy has released a new book called The Walk-On Method to Career and Business Success. It’s all about lessons of how “underdogs” became extraordinary. I have to be honest: I’ve never been a huge sports guy. Due to a series of physical ailments over the years, it was just never an option […]

Yes, You Can Fake It – But Eventually You Have to Make It

Fake It Make It

I know you’ve heard the phrase, “Fake it ’til you make it.” There are many examples of where this applies. Most commonly, we give this advice when someone has stepped into a new role but is experiencing self-doubt about their ability to be successful. This is very similar to the so-called “Imposter Syndrome.” With imposter […]

The Power of Disappearing

Relaxed Man

Many years ago, my friend Arlin Sorensen was given an award at a conference I was attending. In his acceptance speech, he made a profound statement that stuck with me permanently. He said that his father once told him this: “Don’t worry what people think about you. They probably don’t.“ Maybe I was just in […]

Happy Birthday, Arthritis

King

It wasn’t 20 years ago today. It was probably in September or October. But twenty years ago this Fall, I came down with Rheumatoid Arthritis.

Are You Doing “Second Half of Life” Things Yet?

I just finished an excellent book entitled Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life by Richard Rohr. He starts out by examining Carl Jung’s work on the two halves of human growth or the two halves of life. “The first half of life is spent building our sense of identity, importance, and security—what […]

Priming Your Brain – Part 3

In my last two blog posts (Part 1 and Part 2), I introduced the reticular activating system (RAS) and talked a bit about how you can “prime” it to focus on your goals. In this blog post, I want to touch on what happens when you don’t focus your attention. If you study a lot […]

Priming Your Brain – Part 1

There are many fields I wish I had studied more in college. The brain is one of them. Of course, when I was in college, we knew about 1/10th of what we know today. Aside from being an efficient chemical factory for producing hormones that affect happiness, pleasure, body control, and mood, the brain is […]

Silence Means Nothing

Silence Means Nothing One of the truisms I live by is that we should strive to avoid having both sides of a conversation. For example, we are often tempted to say things like, “He would never agree to that,” or “She wouldn’t pay that much.” We tell ourselves that other people will act or think […]