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Balance is the key to personal and professional success.


Knowing your goals and the path to achieve them is essential.


Being successful takes practice and dedication.



Pith. n. The essential part; gist. Pithy. adj. Terse and full of meaning.

"Building friendship takes effort. But very few investments pay off so quickly or last so long."

-- Karl W. Palachuk

"True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable."

-- Dave Tyson Gentry

"By persuading others, we convince ourselves."

-- Junius





"It takes relaxation--and focus--to create and understand the balance in our lives."

-- Karl W. Palachuk



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Relax, Focus, Succeed was written for me… well… for anyone “like” me who’s ever had more to do or fires to put out than hands to pull out your own hair with. And since we’ve all been there at some point; this book will speak to you. Karl’s book reveals an escape from the ‘powering thorough’ that we do every day to get through a multitude of life without ever really ‘living’.


Relax, Focus, Succeed takes the reader down to the core of what makes us who we are and walks us through figuring out what we really want in life, how to maintain our center and create a well-balanced, happy, successful life. Karl is motivational and inspiring.

Hannah Welch
Marysville, CA
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I had the pleasure of attending a presentation by Karl Palachuk and found myself taking notes. His philosophy is that we need to slow down, take care of ourselves, and reprioritize our lives. I am guilty of being a workaholic and never feel like I'm accomplishing as much in a day as I should. But this is the first time I have ever given myself permission to take care of myself first--not to mention to enjoy my family and friends more.


And Karl was right, the work isn't going anywhere and the world won't stop spinning if I let it sit for awhile. This book is a true inspiration! I now schedule workouts into my schedule every day--something I never considered before. But I realized that I will be more productive in the long run if I'm taking care of myself. This is GREAT STUFF!

Stephanie Chandler
Sacramento, CA
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Karl has outdone himself in this book. I started reading this at a stop light and had to pull over and finish two chapters before halting my day and going home to finish the book. There are many practical and meaningful applications that are just helpful. I was pushing the limits of bad health and very bad overwork habits. This book has helped me tremendously. This book ranks with the quality of the E-myth.


You will pick this book up and have a hard time putting it down!

B. Vincent "Ben"
Auburn Hills, MI
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RFS™ Notes - March 2008


I hope you have sunshine as February turns to March.


I don't know about where you are, but Sacramento just finished our big Spring Bloom.


Ornamental pear trees puffed with white flowers. They looked like snow. And a boulevard full of these trees is something to behold.


But now the ornamental plum trees are going to town with just as much splendor. I know it's snowing in many places. If that's the case where you are, take heart! Winter ends and the sun will shine again on yellow flowers!


I lived in Michigan for seven years. It is pretty rare that I look back and miss that Winter weather. But a few days ago I got up at 4:00 in the morning and looked out the window at the night sky. Black.


In a Michigan Winter, there tends to be a thick layer of clouds. So the light from below reflects off the snow and up to the clouds. There's always a bit of glow, even on the darkest night.


Beauty is where you find it.


It may get to 80 degrees in Sacramento in the next week. I'll find beauty here.




This month's topic is one we all think about from time to time, but not very deeply: Friendship.


I welcome your feedback. Thank you, as always.

-- Karl P.

What Constitutes a Friend?

by Karl W. Palachuk

A few years ago I was introduced at a business event as someone who started out as a business colleague and became a friend. I was honored by the comment.


ShakeAs adults, we tend to collect relationships and associates, but not a lot of new friends. We're friendly with a lot of people -- neighbors, colleagues, co-workers, clients -- but that doesn't make them friends.


When I think about my circle of friends, I'm happy to say that it is very wide. And like most of us, I really have lots of circles. I have a handful of people from K-12 school years, I have a large number of college friends, a good collection of graduate school friends. I have a few from church, a few that my wife and I have in common, a few I collected along with my hobbies.


And I have a large number of people who have become friends as a result of work. Clients and other consultants. Employees and former employees.


I am blessed.



A man's real possession is his memory. In nothing else is he rich, in nothing else is he poor.

-- Alexander Smith



What, exactly, constitutes friendship? That's hard to say. I guess friendship is like art. I don't know what it is, but I recognize it when I see it.


Here are a few elements to consider:


1. Attraction. We naturally "like" some people more than others. Sometimes we meet people and something just clicks.


2. Interest. We're interested in some people, and they're interested in us. When you meet someone and a week later they ask about some casual thing you mentioned, you know that person was listening and took an interest.


3. Common interests. Of course, common interests help a lot. Whether it's work, hobbies, religion, or whatever. Having something to talk about is the basis for conversations that draw you closer.


4. Common experiences. We all remember some trip or adventure where we became friends with someone because we'd gone through it together.


5. Support. When you need support (for whatever reason), you turn to a handful of people. Sometimes you know who friends are because they're the people who pop into your head.


When you see something funny and you have to tell someone about it, that's a friend.


When you send an email about something sad and the phone rings, that's a friend.


When you can't stop talking at one o'clock in the morning, that's a friend.


When someone tells you that you better be at the class reunion, that's a friend.




ShakeI'm a firm believer that we shouldn't draw big, dark lines between friends and acquaintances. Acquaintances grow to friendships. Friends fade into acquaintances.


These relationships naturally change over time.


After all, we are dynamic human beings. The things that make up friendship evolve over time. Our interests and experiences evolve. The people we enjoy, and the things we talk about, change over time.



Maintaining friendships also takes some effort. You can't always be the person waiting for the phone call. Sometimes you need to initiate that contact. You need to remember the birthday.


We're all busy. Sometimes we're overwhelmed. But we also have time when things slow down a little. And when that happens, we need to take a minute to reach out.


The way things balance out, your free minute is someone else's hectic time. And, chances are, that person will appreciate a quick email that says "Thought of you when I saw this . . .."


Using the Internet


The internet has made us very lazy. Do not simply pass along jokes to a list of twenty people and think you have done your share to maintain a connection.


At the same time, the internet allows me to "touch" someone anywhere, anytime with ease.


Friends bring up our spirits, bring joy to our lives, and give us an outlet for expressing our emotions.


Friends are healthy.


I hope you have all the friends you need. If not, start cultivating. They spring up pretty fast once you put out some effort.


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This is one of the best books I have ever read, I have many on business motivation as well as many for your personal life and these seem to contradict each other. Karl shows you how to create the necessary balance in your life. I did not realize how much unnecessary stress I was causing myself until Karl pointed it out, this made an immediate impact in my life in all three areas Personal, Family and Business. I highly recommend this book especially for anyone trying to run their own business.

Bret Meche

Opelousas, LA
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The most important thing Karl's book did for me was to remind me of how important it is to relax in order to be successful. Too often we get so busy that we forget to take time to relax in order to focus our minds and thereby succeed. Karl's exercises throughout the book are very practical.

Sue Lynn Canfield
Roseville, CA
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I love the way Karl's book makes powerful and grounded statements. He is motivational, informative and hits the nail on the head. I recommend his book highly and I recommend it to my clients who are working toward more balance and relaxation in their lives.

Jenifer Novak Landers

Folsom, CA
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I will be rereading this book constantly until I get every habit fully ingrained in my head. I am off to buy a notebook for my "quite time".

Thank you Karl!

Brielle Beard
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I have read, and re-read this book from cover to cover. Its a fantastic book.
This book shows you how to do as the title says Relax, Focus and Succeed.


Brilliant book . . . highly recommended.

Chris Timm
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