Integrity: The Courage to Meet the Demands of Reality
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Absolute Honesty: Building a Corporate Culture That Values Straight Talk and Rewards Integrity
by Larry Johnson and Bob Phillips
Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude
by W. Clement Stone
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Balance is the key to personal and professional success.
Knowing your goals and the path to achieve them is essential.
Being successful takes practice and dedication.
"Integrity rolls up honestly, completeness, consistency, and commitment into one powerful word."
-- Karl W. Palachuk
"How desperately difficult it is to be honest with oneself. It is much easier to be honest with other people."
-- Edward F. Benson
"This above all:
To thine own self be true,
And it must follow,
as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be
false to any man."
-- Shakespeare, Hamlet 1.3
"It takes relaxation--and focus--to create and understand the balance in our lives."
-- Karl W. Palachuk
Relax, Focus, Succeed was written for me… well… for anyone “like” me who’s ever had more to do or fires to put out than hands to pull out your own hair with. And since we’ve all been there at some point; this book will speak to you. Karl’s book reveals an escape from the ‘powering thorough’ that we do every day to get through a multitude of life without ever really ‘living’.
Relax, Focus, Succeed takes the reader down to the core of what makes us who we are and walks us through figuring out what we really want in life, how to maintain our center and create a well-balanced, happy, successful life. Karl is motivational and inspiring.
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I had the pleasure of attending a presentation by Karl Palachuk and found myself taking notes. His philosophy is that we need to slow down, take care of ourselves, and reprioritize our lives. I am guilty of being a workaholic and never feel like I'm accomplishing as much in a day as I should. But this is the first time I have ever given myself permission to take care of myself first--not to mention to enjoy my family and friends more.
And Karl was right, the work isn't going anywhere and the world won't stop spinning if I let it sit for awhile. This book is a true inspiration! I now schedule workouts into my schedule every day--something I never considered before. But I realized that I will be more productive in the long run if I'm taking care of myself. This is GREAT STUFF!
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Karl has outdone himself in this book. I started reading this at a stop light and had to pull over and finish two chapters before halting my day and going home to finish the book. There are many practical and meaningful applications that are just helpful. I was pushing the limits of bad health and very bad overwork habits. This book has helped me tremendously. This book ranks with the quality of the E-myth.
You will pick this book up and have a hard time putting it down!
B. Vincent "Ben"
Auburn Hills, MI
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Wow. The book has been doing well. I certainly appreciate everyone's support.
There are a few changes going on around here.
The biggest change is the addition of the RFS Blog. You'll find it at www.RFSblog.com. In case you're new to blogs, here's the scoop. With a blog I can post articles and ideas when they come to me, rather than saving it all up for the newsletter.
Blog entries will be in reverse chronological order.
As a general rule, longer articles will be in the monthly newsletter and at www.relaxfocussucceed.com. Shorter thoughts and ideas, and truly miscellaneous stuff, will be on the blog.
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This month we look at Integrity -- the king of all values.
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Integrity may be the king of all values.
I was talking to someone the other day who mentioned that integrity was one of his core values. It got me brain-storming about the word integrity. What does it mean to have integrity as a core value?
As I talk to people about values, I find that most people list "honesty and integrity" as one of their core values. At some level, we all honor the concept of integrity. We certainly expect it in others. Most of us have integrity. But what does it mean?
A quick brain-storm about the word integrity comes up with a variety of angles:
Standing up for what you believe
Fulfilling your commitments
Doing what you say you're going to do
Acting according to the principles you say you espouse
Being who you say you are
Being "internally consistent"
Keeping together in one piece (whole / intact)
- Uncorrupted, unpolluted
- Being the same person in different situations
- Being the same person in the different roles you play in life
Sometimes used as a synonym for honesty
- Personal Integrity
- Professional Integrity
- Artistic Integrity
Integrity is a much fuller, more meaningful word than mere honesty. Integrity rolls up honestly, completeness, consistency, and commitment into one powerful word.
Some people might say that they have integrity because they haven't changed. They'll say "I am the same person I was five and ten years ago." But that's not integrity. That's lack of change.
Consistency over time is much more than lack of change. Consistency -- the kind we mean when we say integrity -- has more to do with being rooted in the same core values. It means you don't have different personalities and different "stories" when you talk to different people.
People change all the time. It's not possible to be the same person you were five or ten years ago. If you didn't change in ten years, then you didn't grow. If you don't change, you don't learn new things; you don't get new friends; you don't evolve.
Change is not an option. You will change. And not just in superficial ways. After all, you will change the way you view the world and how you handle various situations.
That doesn't mean you can't have integrity.
Fulfilling one's commitments becomes difficult as the world, your life situation, and you personally change over time. You are a different person than you were 3, 5, or 10 years ago. You are a different person than you will be 3, 5, or 10 years from now.
If integrity is merely a name we give to our desire for internal consistency, then it's not really a moral activity. If integrity is merely consistency, it's still a great tool for reducing stress and internal conflict, but it's not a moral activity.
Not all values have a moral flavor to them. But integrity does. When people value integrity, they don't mean mere consistency. When they value integrity, people mean that they value honesty in every aspect of their lives, consistency between their spoken morals and their daily actions, and commitment to fulfilling their commitments.
Integrity certainly doesn't mean that you never make a change.
But the changes you make create a greater consistency in your daily life. They reflect a re-evaluation of moral activity and a realignment with higher principles.
As I review the Relax Focus Succeed® articles and book, I think perhaps the whole undertaking could be wrapped in an understanding of how integrity and consistency reduce stress.
Hmmmm . . . I'll have to think about that.
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This is one of the best books I have ever read, I have many on business motivation as well as many for your personal life and these seem to contradict each other. Karl shows you how to create the necessary balance in your life. I did not realize how much unnecessary stress I was causing myself until Karl pointed it out, this made an immediate impact in my life in all three areas Personal, Family and Business. I highly recommend this book especially for anyone trying to run their own business.
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The most important thing Karl's book did for me was to remind me of how important it is to relax in order to be successful. Too often we get so busy that we forget to take time to relax in order to focus our minds and thereby succeed. Karl's exercises throughout the book are very practical.
Sue Lynn Canfield
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I love the way Karl's book makes powerful and grounded statements. He is motivational, informative and hits the nail on the head. I recommend his book highly and I recommend it to my clients who are working toward more balance and relaxation in their lives.
Jenifer Novak Landers
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I will be rereading this book constantly until I get every habit fully ingrained in my head. I am off to buy a notebook for my "quite time".
Thank you Karl!
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I have read, and re-read this book from cover to cover. Its a fantastic book.
This book shows you how to do as the title says Relax, Focus and Succeed.
Brilliant book . . . highly recommended.
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