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Pith. n. The essential part; gist. Pithy. adj. Terse and full of meaning.

"Our habits are our best friend and our worst enemy. They are completely within our control. And we are completely within their control."

-- Karl W. Palachuk

"The cultures you create have a great deal to do with being the best you can be."

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"It takes relaxation--and focus--to create and understand the balance in our lives."

-- Karl W. Palachuk



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Relax, Focus, Succeed was written for me… well… for anyone “like” me who’s ever had more to do or fires to put out than hands to pull out your own hair with. And since we’ve all been there at some point; this book will speak to you. Karl’s book reveals an escape from the ‘powering thorough’ that we do every day to get through a multitude of life without ever really ‘living’.


Relax, Focus, Succeed takes the reader down to the core of what makes us who we are and walks us through figuring out what we really want in life, how to maintain our center and create a well-balanced, happy, successful life. Karl is motivational and inspiring.

Hannah Welch
Marysville, CA
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I had the pleasure of attending a presentation by Karl Palachuk and found myself taking notes. His philosophy is that we need to slow down, take care of ourselves, and reprioritize our lives. I am guilty of being a workaholic and never feel like I'm accomplishing as much in a day as I should. But this is the first time I have ever given myself permission to take care of myself first--not to mention to enjoy my family and friends more.


And Karl was right, the work isn't going anywhere and the world won't stop spinning if I let it sit for awhile. This book is a true inspiration! I now schedule workouts into my schedule every day--something I never considered before. But I realized that I will be more productive in the long run if I'm taking care of myself. This is GREAT STUFF!

Stephanie Chandler
Sacramento, CA
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Karl has outdone himself in this book. I started reading this at a stop light and had to pull over and finish two chapters before halting my day and going home to finish the book. There are many practical and meaningful applications that are just helpful. I was pushing the limits of bad health and very bad overwork habits. This book has helped me tremendously. This book ranks with the quality of the E-myth.


You will pick this book up and have a hard time putting it down!

B. Vincent "Ben"
Auburn Hills, MI
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A Book Is in The Works - January 2007

Well, after much encouragement, I have decided to write a book called Relax Focus Succeed®. More information will be posted as I have it.


The working title is Relax Focus Succeed -- A Guide to Balancing Your Personal and Professional Lives and Becoming More Successful in Both. I'll post updates as it progresses.


If you think it would be useful for me to post an audio preview of some sections, please send me an email. I'm thinking of making a few MP3 files for you to download.


In the meantime, the new year is a great time to evaluate your behavior and think about what you want more of and what you want less of. This month's newsletter is on habits, although we don't use the word habit much. All of our behavior, every action we take, contributes to either building one habit or tearing down another.


I welcome your feedback. Thanks.

-- Karl P.

The Wolf You Feed

by Karl W. Palachuk

The following story was passed on to me as a bit of Cherokee Wisdom. I don't know any more about it's origins.



Two Wolves


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."



As we begin rebuilding ourselves and preparing to move to the next stage in our lives, it is good to occasionally evaluate which wolf we're feeding.


Our tendency as humans is to experience "positive" emotions together and "negative" emotions together. So, when we feel frustrated, we're more susceptible to also fee angry and depressed. When we feel happy, we're more open to feeling grateful and loving.


Sometimes when you're in a funk -- feeling the darker emotions -- you need to just let it wear itself out. But you can also force yourself away from the negative emotions and toward the positive.


More and more research is showing that you can actually make yourself happier and give yourself a more positive mental attitude by doing the things that happier, more positive people do. Even if you're not a big jokester, exposing yourself to humor and things that make you laugh will help you to be more happy and less sad.


This is definitely not the kind of thing you want to solve with a pill. Pills that make you happy also tend to have all kinds of unwanted side effects. Intoxication leads to hangover.


It is much better to train yourself to trigger more happiness and less anger. Parents of very young children know that there are times when you simply cannot do anything to help a baby stop crying. At some point, the child has to learn to comfort herself.


Well we, as adults, need to do the same thing. But too often adults comfort themselves with alcohol or drugs. We don't really learn to comfort ourselves, we simply learn to medicate ourselves.


One of the great benefits of daily quiet time is that you learn the habit of quieting your mind and your body. You know what it feels like and you learn how to get into that state. So, when the world comes beating at your door and the "dark" wolves want to be fed, you know how to go, have some quiet time, and take control of your emotional health.


It is also important to evaluate who you spend time with. At work, in your personal life, at school. Everywhere.


Do you hang around with angry people who seem never to be happy? Or people who seem to ruin every personal relationship they have? If so, you'll get caught up in that negativity.


You can't fix other people. The best you can hope for is that they decide to make some changes and ask for help.


Perhaps one of the most difficult things a person can do it to change the people he spends time with. In our culture, it just doesn't feel "right" to cut people off, move away, and separate yourself from them.



An Endorsement of Quiet Time:


"If you love truth, be a lover of Silence.

Silence, like the sunlight, will illuminate you in God and will deliver you from the phantoms of ignorance."

-- Thomas Merton



Just remember, our culture is also not good at recognizing that you need to take care of yourself, reward yourself, and nurture yourself. If you don't take care of yourself first, you can't properly care for others. Sometimes that means you need to separate yourself from certain people.

Some people will simply waste your time. Some will lead you down the wrong path.

Others will keep you motivated and feeling good.

Spend time with people who love you and nurture you and support you. Move away from those who whine and complain and feed the bad wolf.

There are many ways we can feed the good wolf. We can reward ourselves, try to laugh every day, build positive habits, and work to achieve them. If nothing else, it helps to realize that there are two sets of habits and that you get to choose which you will nurture.

I encourage you to spend some quiet time building two lists, the evil wolf and the good wolf. Write down as many behaviors as you can thing of on each list. Then consider which of these represents where you are now, and which represents where you want to be.

Good luck. Be kind to yourself. It's hard work, but it's worthwhile.


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Of Interest



This is one of the best books I have ever read, I have many on business motivation as well as many for your personal life and these seem to contradict each other. Karl shows you how to create the necessary balance in your life. I did not realize how much unnecessary stress I was causing myself until Karl pointed it out, this made an immediate impact in my life in all three areas Personal, Family and Business. I highly recommend this book especially for anyone trying to run their own business.

Bret Meche

Opelousas, LA
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The most important thing Karl's book did for me was to remind me of how important it is to relax in order to be successful. Too often we get so busy that we forget to take time to relax in order to focus our minds and thereby succeed. Karl's exercises throughout the book are very practical.

Sue Lynn Canfield
Roseville, CA
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I love the way Karl's book makes powerful and grounded statements. He is motivational, informative and hits the nail on the head. I recommend his book highly and I recommend it to my clients who are working toward more balance and relaxation in their lives.

Jenifer Novak Landers

Folsom, CA
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I will be rereading this book constantly until I get every habit fully ingrained in my head. I am off to buy a notebook for my "quite time".

Thank you Karl!

Brielle Beard
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I have read, and re-read this book from cover to cover. Its a fantastic book.
This book shows you how to do as the title says Relax, Focus and Succeed.


Brilliant book . . . highly recommended.

Chris Timm
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