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Then set aside the time and begin building muscle memory in the muscles of success.


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"It takes relaxation--and focus--to create and understand the balance in our lives."

-- Karl W. Palachuk



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Relax, Focus, Succeed was written for me… well… for anyone “like” me who’s ever had more to do or fires to put out than hands to pull out your own hair with. And since we’ve all been there at some point; this book will speak to you. Karl’s book reveals an escape from the ‘powering thorough’ that we do every day to get through a multitude of life without ever really ‘living’.


Relax, Focus, Succeed takes the reader down to the core of what makes us who we are and walks us through figuring out what we really want in life, how to maintain our center and create a well-balanced, happy, successful life. Karl is motivational and inspiring.

Hannah Welch
Marysville, CA
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I had the pleasure of attending a presentation by Karl Palachuk and found myself taking notes. His philosophy is that we need to slow down, take care of ourselves, and reprioritize our lives. I am guilty of being a workaholic and never feel like I'm accomplishing as much in a day as I should. But this is the first time I have ever given myself permission to take care of myself first--not to mention to enjoy my family and friends more.


And Karl was right, the work isn't going anywhere and the world won't stop spinning if I let it sit for awhile. This book is a true inspiration! I now schedule workouts into my schedule every day--something I never considered before. But I realized that I will be more productive in the long run if I'm taking care of myself. This is GREAT STUFF!

Stephanie Chandler
Sacramento, CA
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Karl has outdone himself in this book. I started reading this at a stop light and had to pull over and finish two chapters before halting my day and going home to finish the book. There are many practical and meaningful applications that are just helpful. I was pushing the limits of bad health and very bad overwork habits. This book has helped me tremendously. This book ranks with the quality of the E-myth.


You will pick this book up and have a hard time putting it down!

B. Vincent "Ben"
Auburn Hills, MI
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Muscle Memory: Practicing Success and Focus

For ten years I played a consistently mediocre game of racquetball.  I got to a certain level and, no matter how much I played, I didn't get any better.  Then one day I took a free clinic at our racquet club and learned the proper way to hold the racquet!  My game improved instantly.  I could serve more accurately and with a great deal more power.  I finally understood how the really powerful players made it sound like a gun going off when they served.

The basic problem was that I had taught myself "a" way to hold the racquet, but I had not learned "the right way" to hold the racquet.

I used to play with a guy who was raised in South Africa and went to school in England.  He had played racquetball his entire life.  I don't know why he played with me except out of pity.  He always knew where the ball was going.  He could instinctively judge the position and speed of the ball, along with my movements, so he knew just where I'd hit the ball.  He would walk over there and wait for it.  Believe me, I got a lot more exercise than he did!

Let me clarify the use of the word "instinctively."  My friend had learned from thirty years of playing racquetball.  He had a vision of the game that I never developed.  And he had "muscle memory" so that he didn't have to consciously decide which backhand shot to use or make a decision of how soft to hit the ball so it barely touched the front wall and then died.

In all athletic activity, we practice building muscle memory so that we can advance to the next level.  Tennis players, golfers, weight lifters, and ballerinas all practice over and over so that they don't have to think about every muscle move when the time comes.

As the father of a gymnast I watched for years as my daughter did cartwheels along a straight piece of tape on the floor.  And when it came time to do a cartwheel on a beam, she could!  Of course, on a real beam there are additional skills to learn.  The basic process of doing a cartwheel flawlessly on a straight line was now part of her subconscious activity—it was muscle memory.  Now she could work on the next challenge.

Working on success, relaxation, and focus, also require this level of practice.  You need to develop a sort of "Muscle Memory for Success."  This has two parts. 

First, you need to tune into the skills you learned wrong so you can re-learn them the right way. 

Second, you need to practice the skills of success at your current level so you can move to the next level.

Unlearning What You Learned Wrong

When I learned racquetball, I held the racquet wrong at the beginning because I wanted to play the game.  But holding the racquet incorrectly became a habit and soon enough it felt right to me.  I couldn't move up to the next level until I moved back and relearned this skill. 

Some people need to relearn communication skills or unlearn the habit of watching TV all night.  Some need to unlearn wasteful spending habits and others need to unlearn the over-eating habit.

Take a moment and write down three or four things that you need to un-learn or re-learn the right way.  Be patient with yourself.  Remember, the muscle memory of success takes time.  You may have developed a habit a long time ago and practiced it for ten years.  You won't be able to re-learn that overnight.  It is comfortable, even if you know it's wrong.  To begin the process of re-learning, you will need to set some goals and begin practicing your new habits. 

This is precisely the kind of activity that makes daily reflection useful.  If you take ten minutes every day to review your goals for the day, you'll bring attention to your new undertaking.  Focusing on your goals will bring them into your conscious mind and make your practice easier each day.

Develop New Skills of Success

Once you've established some goals and are focused forward on your own success, then you need to develop new skills of success:  Taking time to relax; working hard when no one's looking; reading (reading, reading, reading); improving you job skills; goal-setting on a regular basis; exercising; and so forth. 

Most of us instinctively know what we need to do to be successful, but it's easier to sleep in as late as possible, come home from work and plop down in front of the TV, sit like vegetables all night, and then do it all again the next day.

It takes discipline—and practice—to get up a little early, exercise, spend quiet time focusing on your goals for the day, reading in the evening, and consciously work on your success.

You also have to get to know the skills of success.  You need to focus on the actions you take and acknowledge when you have a success.  When you experience a success of any size, stop and savor it.  Consider how it feels.  How did you get here?  How would you do it again?  It feels good, doesn't it?

You need to focus on the feelings and actions of your success—these are your muscles of success.  In order to exercise these muscles you have to be familiar with them.

You also must learn to use these "muscles" before you need them.  Just like knowing the fire exits before the alarm goes off:  You need to know how to use your muscles of success when the time comes.

Perhaps the hardest thing for most people to learn is relaxation.  Most people have never spent time being wakeful and restful at the same time.  There is great value in calming you mind and focusing on the moment.  The more stressful the situation, the more important you will find this practice.  But you can't practice when there's a stressful situation (like an irate customer yelling on the phone).  You need to practice your calming technique before you need it.  Then when you need it, it will be there for you.  Your muscles will know what you want them to do.

 Start today:  Make a list of things you need to un-learn or re-learn.  Make a list of successful practices you will work on.  Then set aside the time and begin building muscle memory in the muscles of success.

### RFS ###

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This is one of the best books I have ever read, I have many on business motivation as well as many for your personal life and these seem to contradict each other. Karl shows you how to create the necessary balance in your life. I did not realize how much unnecessary stress I was causing myself until Karl pointed it out, this made an immediate impact in my life in all three areas Personal, Family and Business. I highly recommend this book especially for anyone trying to run their own business.

Bret Meche

Opelousas, LA
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The most important thing Karl's book did for me was to remind me of how important it is to relax in order to be successful. Too often we get so busy that we forget to take time to relax in order to focus our minds and thereby succeed. Karl's exercises throughout the book are very practical.

Sue Lynn Canfield
Roseville, CA
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I love the way Karl's book makes powerful and grounded statements. He is motivational, informative and hits the nail on the head. I recommend his book highly and I recommend it to my clients who are working toward more balance and relaxation in their lives.

Jenifer Novak Landers

Folsom, CA
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I will be rereading this book constantly until I get every habit fully ingrained in my head. I am off to buy a notebook for my "quite time".

Thank you Karl!

Brielle Beard
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I have read, and re-read this book from cover to cover. Its a fantastic book.
This book shows you how to do as the title says Relax, Focus and Succeed.


Brilliant book . . . highly recommended.

Chris Timm
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